Balance. This word . . . this idea, is so crucial for understanding and attaining happiness. It is a significant part of the reason that I am writing this blog. So many of us find it easy to highlight, ponder, dwell on, and magnify the negatives in our lives until they become radically out of balance with the positives that are all around us. I am as guilty of this as anyone. But, by the same token, the bright, happy, light, fun, and beautiful things, although often overlooked, would not retain their majesty without the contrast that pain provides. I am struck lately, by many such examples of this balance in my life and they move me to gratitude. They are the building blocks of my contentment.
In accidentally stabbing my hand, I discover over the course of the following week, the immense relief of allowing someone else to take control and help with the simple everyday things that often bog me down. In being consistently frustrated by the window-rattling, base-thumping music of my rear adjoining neighbors, I am afforded an opportunity to connect to another neighbor I might otherwise have never spoken to. While exhausting myself trying to finish a book for my book club, I find myself refreshed by the stimulating discussion of friends that follows my accomplishment. Because my sitter’s daughter became ill, my son was able to spend some much needed time with his daddy and friends. In lamenting the loss of certain friends to my husband, I am reminded of poignant examples of the depth of the friendships that remain. While on the verge of letting my frustration overcome me at the unfathomably slow pace of my toddler on a walk around the block, he brings me a stick with dead leaves hanging off of it and proudly declares, “A flower for you Momma! It’s special!” Indeed it was.
The key, I suppose, is remembering, while immersed in the difficult moments, that they too will find balance. There is always another side of the coin. But don’t wait for that balance to happen too you. Seek it out. Mine for the joy that accompanies sorrow and most likely you will be able to find it. Create moments that will surprise you . . . you might be surprised what you’ll find.