If you do not know yourself first, no matter what partner you choose, you will end up living their life along side of them instead of your own life with them.
Don’t fool yourself into living someone else’s life. You’ve only got one. Make it your own.
You can’t mix and match qualities to create the perfect partner. You can, however, mix and match them to create the perfect you – or as close to it as you can muster. That’s the goal.
Rather than searching for the perfect person to make you happy, create yourself to be the person you’d want to be with. Then you may find that this is where happiness comes from, not from outside yourself.
It is fruitless to build yourself up into the person you want to be only to keep it to yourself. Lives are made for sharing. Open yourself up so that others can view the artwork that is you.
Vulnerability is both the hardest and most fulfilling quality you can cultivate. It is the birthplace of connection.
When you do find someone worth sacrificing for, it won’t feel like as much of a sacrifice. (Most of the time.)
If you sacrifice an important part of yourself for someone else, that sacrifice should be made with full awareness and intentionality and should be understood to be temporary. Integral parts of yourself should not be lost, but rather set aside for a time if the needs of another come first.
Falling in love happens too you, staying in love you make happen.
There IS such a thing as love at first sight, although, most of the time, the person in your sights is very, very tiny.
I don’t want to sound too much like a relationship guru here. These are just some thoughts I’ve been mulling over as I talk with some friends about the ups and downs of relationships. Please feel free to add more pearls of insight to the list. It is very, very incomplete.